Five signs that you should stop giving advice

Advising one another is a great way of keeping the human race alive :-) Tips and tricks, counsel, pointers - you name it. And we often do it without thinking, throughout the day, especially with social media #inspiartionalquote. But there are certain instances where I'm of the opinion that one should stop giving advice. It may be for a period of time, but I believe doing so is beneficial. Read why below.

 

1. YOU ARE FEELING BURNT OUT

Service to others should revitalize and get us excited about life. But once it becomes more of a chore than a privilege, then you know you possibly need to get back to basics, you may need to look after yourself more, and cut down on helping others, at least for a period of time. 

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2. YOU RESENT YOUR ADVISEES

Okay I didn't know what to call the recipients of your advice, so we'll call them advisees for now :-) If you find yourself complaining about them, rolling your eyes, huffing and puffing whenever they call/text to ask for help, then you know you must change something. 

3. YOU ARE NOT EXCITED ABOUT THEIR SUCCESS

This one is simple. If you find that you are getting jealous of other people's success, especially the ones that you gave tips and hints, and they surpass you, then you really should stop giving advice until you can figure out the root of this feeling. Why? Because it is a reflection of a scarcity mindset somewhere, and scarcity only brings with it bitterness and feeling like you 'made someone', the very opposite of why you serve.

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4. YOU HAVE NO ONE ADVISING YOU

One of the biggest blessings in this life is to have people in your life that offer wise counsel and support. However, sometimes you may not have this kind of system in your life, for whatever reason. My favorite thing about having advisors, or mentors, is that they can quickly spot when you are about to make mistakes (nothing wrong with making mistakes), and they hold you accountable to your goals. So, if you really enjoy, or are in the business of advising others, then make sure that you have people doing the same for you. 

NOTE: Take this one is a grain of salt, sometimes being what you are missing in the world is a great way to attract it.

Scarcity only brings with it bitterness and feeling like you ‘made someone’, the very opposite of why you serve.

 

5. YOU DON'T HAVE ANY BOUNDARIES IN PLACE

Service does not mean slavery, and it shouldn't feel like one. Even in assisting others, you should have clear boundaries and communicate them. For example, unless it's a matter of life and death, I don't respond to calls after a certain time. And when I was shooting full time, I did not take any Sunday photoshoots. This may seem selfish, especially initially when you haven't had any boundaries in place, but the more you can exercise the boundary muscle, the better you get at it, and people respect you for it. And funny enough, I find that I have the hardest time keeping clear boundaries when family is involved :-)

So sit down, examine how your life is set up right now, especially with family, and get clear on what you will and will not do. 

There is a time for everything under the sun, you will have plenty of time to save the world, but it shouldn't come at the expense of your sanity!

Now your turn, have you ever stopped giving advice at some point? How was that experience, share in comments below!